YONI is the Sanskrit word for vulva and means ‘sacred space, source’. 

Benefits of a Yoni massage are varied and can include:

- relaxation, release of blockages, past trauma, shame, physical and emotional pain;

  1. - increased blood flow to sexual organs which can help release hormones more easily;

  2. - increased sensation together with relaxation and flow can lead to more pleasure, arousal, vitality, joy, feeling of safety in ones body, confidence, creativity and can unlock and increase orgasmic potential;

The Yoni massage session is for your pleasure, the honouring of your sexuality and your yoni, your body, for your wellbeing, health, healing, pleasure and joy.

It is important that you know that you are completely in charge of this process- you are invited to guide me very specifically on where and how you like to be touched: firmer, lighter, slower, to pause etc.  I am  in service to you and your experience and I am guided by you.

A session usually takes two hours .

At the beginning of the session we will set an intention for your massage- this can be for healing, pleasure, clearing, honouring, joy, aliveness, acknowledging of your yoni or anything else;


An Erotic Awakening Massage is a pleasurable

whole body massage that aims to awaken erotic energy,

enliven the body and spirit and support you to feel

connected with your sexuality, eroticism and orgasmic


The Erotic Awakening massage builds on the elements of breathing, touch and movement. Barbara Carrellas describes it as
a unique combination of

conscious breathing, sensual massage, specific genital massage strokes (imagine genital reflexology) and energy orgasm techniques.

Benefits of the Erotic Awakening Massage can include:

- feeling of aliveness;

- deep connection with body/ stronger embodiment, grounding;

- experience of receiving, exploring erotic/ sexual pleasure and arousal in a safe environment without any pressure;

- erotic/ sexual empowerment and agency;

- reconnecting with erotic feelings and arousal;

- the massage can feel deeply nourishing for body and spirit;

- reconnecting with and expanding your orgasmic potential;

- expanded consciousness and connection with the ecstatic- you might experience connection with something bigger, spirit universe, bliss;

  1. -the Erotic Awakening Massage has great healing potential such as helping heal wounds from past trauma of sexual abuse;

A session usually takes two hours. At the beginning of the session we will set an intention for your massage- this can be for healing, pleasure, clearing, honouring, joy, aliveness, acknowledging yourself as an erotic, sexual being or anything else.

We will check in before the massage about any boundaries you might have in regards to touch and your body.

During the Erotic Awakening Massage I encourage you to listen deeply to your body, your wishes and desires and subtle impulses and to communicate those, so I can meet your needs and wishes in the best possible way.

We do not often get a chance to direct another’s touch exactly to our needs- I am in service to you and your experience in this process and I am also guided by you. It is important that you know that you are completely in charge of this experience- you are invited to guide me very specifically on the quality of the touch, where and how you like to be touched: firmer, lighter, slower, to pause etc.

As the receiver you are in complete choice in every moment.

The massage can, but doesn’t have to include genital touch.

All feelings are welcome in the session. An Erotic Awakening Massage can be an intensely powerful, exquisite, wonderful, magical and a very emotional experience. Sometimes deep emotions can emerge and be released; you might feel sadness, grief or anger as well as ecstatic joy; you might giggle or cry, laugh out loud or be very still- I will never judge any feelings that arise and encourage you to do the same.

Towards the end of the Massage, I offer the Taoist practice of the ‘Big Draw’- you take 30 quick breaths followed by 3 deep long breaths , then clench every muscle for as long as you can before releasing everything.

The experience in this space of release is different for everybody- it can range from a subtle sense of warmth and tingliness to full body orgasm or anything in between.

After this there will be time for you to savour whatever feelings and sensations arise before we check in and close the session.

The Erotic Awakening massage can be a one off experience or you can book several sessions to drop deeper into the process.

Any questions and to book please do get in touch :


I look forward to welcoming you!

The Erotic Awakening Massage was developed by Barbara Carrellas, Joseph Kramer and Annie Sprinkle in the 1980s merging the wisdom of Tantra and Taoism with the insights of western sexology- I was taught the Erotic Awakening massage from Barbara Carrellas in her Urban Tantra® Professional training.

’Our sexuality is not only something that can be used for the enhancement of an intimate relationship, for physical pleasure and procreation. It can also be used for personal transformation, physical and emotional healing, self realisation and spiritual growth, and as a way to learn all of life and death.

Annie Sprinkle about the Erotic Awakening massage


  1. -help with difficulties such as painful menstruation, lower

back pain, physical pain during penetrative sex,

numbness, decreased libido and disconnection from

sexual drive/ sexuality/ eroticism.

A yoni massage can be an exquisite, wonderful, magical and emotional experience. Sometimes deep emotions can emerge and be released; you might feel sadness, grief or anger as well as ecstatic joy; you might giggle or cry, laugh out loud or be very still- I will never judge any feelings that arise and encourage you to do the same- all feelings are welcome!

Allow yourself to relax as deeply as possible into the experience without expectations of how it might be, how much you might feel, how much or little pleasure you might experience, etc, whether there will be an orgasm or not, whether there is numbness, pain, sensitivity or not. Give yourself permission to enjoy the experience and embrace it as exactly the experience it will be and let yourself be surprised. Honour your experience exactly as it is and as perfect for this moment in time;

The more and deeper you can breathe the more you can feel; I will remind you every so often to breathe throughout the massage!

The yoni massage includes the whole body and is embedded in a bigger massage to create relaxation; before any genital touch will take place I will always check in with you; we will spend time on belly, legs and thighs too.
A yoni massage can but does not have to include internal vaginal touch. Again you are completely in charge of where you would like to be touched, for how long etc and change this at any time.

Pleasure and your full expression of it is completely welcome in the session!

There will be some time at the end of the session to relax and also to chat and ground;

Please let me know if you have any particular needs and wishes.

Ideally a yoni massage is not a one off experience. Every yoni massage experience is unique and different and with each experience and session there is a possibility to drop deeper, experience more sensation, pleasure, release, freedom and connection. Every person is different in their needs of course and depending on what your intention is, what you might want to release etc, you might want to embark on a longer journey with this.

I recommend a minimum of 3 sessions initially to allow yourself space for a deep process.

Any questions please do get in touch : 07757747027

I look forward to welcoming you !

What is Sexological Bodywork?

By Caffyn Jesse

Sexological bodyworkers are somatic sex educators. We teach through body experiences designed to nurture, deepen or awaken the sensual self. These experiences can include coaching in breath, movement, body awareness, boundary-setting, communication, anatomy, sensate focus, massage, erotic trance and other body-based teaching about sex. Uniquely in the professions, we are trained to do genital and anal touch for education, healing and pleasure. We touch in ways that assist students in developing presence within the body, opening interior awareness, and learning how the body can feel more and more alive.

Somatic Sex Education is a wonderful way to address all kinds of sexual problems, ranging from premature ejaculation to not being able to orgasm readily. Couples can learn to navigate sexual differences and explore new erotic possibilities with body-based learning and guided practice.

We all set limits on the quantity and quality of pleasure we can embody. Limits to pleasure are ubiquitous in a culture that shames sexuality and fails to teach us how to honor and celebrate erotic energy. Sexual wounding becomes embedded in the body’s tissues and responses. Somatic Sex Education can assist you in expanding the pleasure that is possible. This expansion has physical, emotional, mental and spiritual components.


When we experience nervousness or anxiety around sexual experience, we endure a cascade of stress hormones including adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones act on all the body’s functions and tissues. We breathe more quickly and shallowly. Our heart rate increases. Our gut clenches. Blood leaves the genital tissues so we are better able to “fight or flee,” and we lose our capacity for feeling fully. Somatic Sex Educators coach students to open up their bodies with breath and deep relaxation. With slow, careful and skillful touch, given in a very safe situation completely controlled by the student’s needs, you can learn what is possible.

Scar tissue can present another limit to pleasure, and Somatic Sex Educators are trained in scar tissue remediation techniques. The body often produces a cascade of powerful endorphins during Somatic Sex Education sessions. Endorphins are hormonelike chemicals that suppress anxiety and pain and build a feeling of bliss.

An erotic massage can be simply and profoundly joyful, a deep honouring of the erotic self. Experiencing our body’s capacity for bliss regularly and often is vitally important to our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well-being.


We expand our emotional range in an environment of loving kindness and complete acceptance. Somatic Sex Education practitioners are trained to offer this environment to all students, whatever their unique erotic identities, their challenges, wounds and joys. Opening up emotionally has biochemical components. Caring, conscious touch activates hormones including oxytocin. Many studies show a correlation of oxytocin levels with greater stress tolerance, increases in bonding and trust, and decreases in fear. In addition, Somatic Sex Education sessions can teach you to become emotionally empowered in your sexual relationships. You can learn how to direct sexual touch, experience and express your body boundaries, and encounter and release trauma imprints.


As individuals and as a culture we lack erotic knowledge. Somatic Sex Educators teach you genital anatomy, the physiology of multiple orgasms, how to touch, how to negotiate desires, and many other things about sex. The practices of Somatic Sex Education assist students in developing increased capacities for mindfulness. With coaching in the conscious placement of attention, you can learn to bring more focus and presence to sexual exchanges. This work invites you to recognize habits and patterns that are limiting your pleasure. Somatic Sex Educators are trained to help students who want to address “pornography addiction” or transform unwanted fantasies. Building a bridge between conscious and unconscious responses opens possibilities for making new choices about your pathways to pleasure.


Pleasure helps us connect with the divine within and around us. Somatic Sex Education can teach you how to consciously access profound ecstatic and erotic states. You can learn to tune in to sexual energy, to move it and to amplify it. You can learn to give your sexuality focused attention, and go deeply into its beauty and mystery. Sexual energy can be experienced as transformative spirit, an aspect of the sacred, a way to dance in union with all that is. Interacting with love and mindfulness while making deep connection from this core part of the self, we can experience sacred presence in others and in ourselves.

In the sexual matrix of body, mind, spirit and emotion, we can learn to expand our capacity for joy, experiencing more and more deeply what it is to be fully alive.

For more info on the profession click here:

And you can check out a lovely video by my teacher Caffyn Jesse here


If you are interested in this work, please contact me- we can then arrange a free 30 min SKYPE session to talk about your intentions and wishes for this work and to see whether we are a good fit for each other.

Please contact me :


These are some of the areas that can  be explored with Sexological Bodywork and Somatic Sex Education:

  1. -exploring who I am as an erotic being;
    - learning more about the anatomy of arousal;
    - experiencing Taoist Erotic Massage;
    - exploring the intersection of sex and spirit;
    - loss or lack of sexual desire – inside or outside of a relationship;
    - reconnecting to sex after childbirth, menopause, or prostate surgery or other life events;

  2. -chronic pelvic pain, vulvodynia, constrictions that inhibit sexual function;
    - learning about/exploring my genitals;

- scar Tissue remediation- attending to scars, releasing tension, allowing for more sensation;

- creating a better relationship to my genitals/ addressing genital shame;

  1. -addressing body image issues;
    - finding pleasure/ more pleasure for myself; learning new ways of love making/ having sex;

  2. -increasing self care;
    - G-spot exploration;
    - prostate exploration;
    - experiencing and maintaining erection;

  3. -experiencing pleasure without erection;

  4. -creating erotic/ sexual/ healing rituals for myself;
    - exploring breathwork/ how breath can support arousal; working on

  5. - boundaries- knowing my yes, no, maybe;
    - working on overcoming shame, guilt or fear in the realm of sex;

  6. -becoming orgasmic, or more orgasmic;

  7. -building sexual confidence, agency and empowerment;

  8. -exploring female ejaculation;
    - changing habitual sexual roles or scripts;
    - healing sexual abuse or trauma;

  9. -exploring erotic possibilities as a transitioning or transgender person,

or someone who wants to play with gender;

- curiosity about /exploring conscious kink/ BDSM;

- addressing troublesome turn-ons, including “pornography addiction” or unwanted fantasies;

  1. -learning about or exploring my anus/ anal sex/ prostate massage/

  2. - exploring the realm of anal pleasure;

- expanding my self-pleasure/masturbation practice (self-pleasure coaching) / expand habits, nourish connection to my own sexual self and energy;

- learning how to communicate sexual desires, wishes and needs/ finding my voice and agency;

  1. -exploring power and surrender as aspects of sex play and pleasure